lesbitch:

ok so don’t take this first sentence out of context but i don’t think the age of consent should be a factor in your thought process when it comes to deciding to begin a romantic relationship. You should instead consider the ethics of your age gap. The law should actually never be treated like it necessarily indicates morality.

Like, in some states it’s perfectly legal for a 14-year-old and an 18-year-old to have a relationship of a romantic nature due to romeo and juliet laws, but in others an 18-year-old who has sex with a 17-year-old can be charged with corruption of a minor. 

I’ve seen, first-hand, an 18-year-old pretend his relationship w a 14-year-old was perfectly normal and acceptable JUST because it was legal in his state. I’ve also seen people write entire callouts because an 18-year-old dated a 17-year-old who was like. mere months younger than them. 

We shouldn’t function on technicalities of the law. I know many of you mean well, but as a victim of csa who was 14 and targeted by someone nearly 4 years older than me, i have had my story continuously disregarded just bc it was legal in my abuser’s state. 

the implications of treating the law like gospel rather than a guideline functioning as a blunt-force instrument can be unsavory. Your argument against an age gap in a relationship should be that it is disgusting, immoral, harmful, and abusive, not merely that it is illegal, because that implies that if there were no age of consent laws you would find that relationship acceptable.